The Patriarchy Podcast | The Great Commission or the Great Guilt Trip?

How to Do Missions Without Destroying Your Family

Are you a real Christian if you haven’t sold your house, moved overseas, and blogged about orphans from a hammock?

In this episode, Pastor Joseph Spurgeon sits down with Alex Kocman (ABWE) to talk missions—real missions. Not the kind that wrecks homes and shames ordinary men, but the kind that builds families, churches, and nations. They expose the guilt-driven radicalism of modern missions and offer a biblically grounded, manly alternative.

🔥 Topics Covered:

✅ Is it radical to stay—or cowardly?

✅ Why “missions” became a status symbol in woke evangelicalism

✅ How Platt’s Radical movement stirred zeal but caused wreckage

✅ How to send missionaries without exporting feminism

✅ The need for hard men on the mission field

✅ Biblical church-based sending (Acts 13 model)

✅ Why strong families make strong missions

✅ How average men can obey the Great Commission without guilt

✅ What the “order of loves” teaches us about mission priorities

⏱ Chapters:

00:00 - Cold Open: Are You Even a Christian If You Don’t Move to Africa?

03:00 - Intro to Alex Kocman & ABWE

06:00 - The Problem with Radical Missions

12:00 - Is Staying Home Less Faithful?

18:00 - Missions as a Masculine Task

23:00 - Feminism in the Mission Field

28:00 - William Carey, Boniface & Modern Pushback

35:00 - Building Christendom at Home and Abroad

40:00 - Practical Tips for Faithful Sending

50:00 - Final Thoughts: Grit Over Guilt

💬 Comment Below:

Have you ever felt “missions guilt”? What’s your take—should more men stay, go, or send?

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