Why You’re Annoying Everyone: A Field Guide to Adding Wisdom to Your Zeal!

In this solo episode, Pastor Joseph Spurgeon dives deep into the wild ride known as the "cage stage"—that volatile season when a man discovers a hard-hitting truth (Calvinism, patriarchy, Christian nationalism… you name it) and starts swinging it like a hammer before he’s learned to wield it like a sword.

Whether you've been there, seen it happen, or are stuck in it now—this episode lays out the stages from truth resistance to humble mastery.

You’ll learn how to channel zeal into godly wisdom, avoid burning down your relationships, and grow from a theological grenade into a mature man of conviction.

Topics Covered:

✅ What is the Cage Stage? Why do men go full zealot when the lightbulb turns on?
✅ The “Bomb Drop” moment—when truth hits like a grenade
✅ Why seeing truth everywhere can make you unbearable
✅ The Crusade Phase—missionary zeal meets reckless fire
✅ Betrayal & Resistance—why you start distrusting your pastors and friends
✅ Humility & Wisdom—how to graduate from Cage Stage chaos
✅ How Pastors and Fathers should disciple men in the fire
✅ Tools on the Shelf—why not every battle needs a bazooka

This one’s for every man who’s ever gone all-in on a truth bomb...and had to learn how to stop blowing up the dinner table.

Chapters:

00:00 - The Cage Stage Phenomenon
01:51 - Understanding Zeal and Wisdom
04:34 - Stages of the Cage Stage
07:19 - The Prequel Stage: Resistance to Truth
10:31 - Stage One: The Bomb Drop
13:16 - Seeing Truth Everywhere
16:02 - The Crusade Begins
19:20 - Anger and Betrayal Stage
22:05 - Resistance and Pushback
25:20 - Defining True Masculinity
26:23 - Navigating the Cage Stage
30:10 - The Importance of Love and Humility
35:17 - The Role of Pastors and Leaders
48:21 - Fostering Unity in the Church

💬 Comment Below: Have you or someone you know gone through the cage stage? What helped you out of it?

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Books by Joseph Spurgeon:
It’s Good to Be a Boy – https://a.co/d/7zpEh5D
It’s Good to Be a Girl – https://a.co/d/6VlBTzS