Your Child Won't Obey? Try This Instead
Principles for Obedience Training: Raising Children for Joy, Order, and Dominion
Episode Summary
In this solo episode, Pastor Joseph Spurgeon lays down a biblical and unapologetically patriarchal framework for obedience training in the home. Drawing from Scripture and pastoral experience as a father of eight, this episode confronts modern parenting myths and reclaims God’s design for authority, discipline, and joy in the family.
This is not about control for control’s sake. It is about training children to live under God-given authority for their good, their safety, and their future faithfulness. Pastor Joseph explains why obedience is foundational to parenting, how authority is meant to serve, and what God actually requires when He commands children to obey their parents.
You will hear a clear standard for obedience, a theological defense of parental authority, and practical principles that expose why many parents unintentionally train disobedience instead of obedience. This episode is essential listening for fathers who want order in their homes, peace in their families, and children prepared to honor Christ in every sphere of life.
If you are tired of barking commands, negotiating with toddlers, or watching chaos rule your home, this episode is for you.
Chapter Breakdown & Timestamps
00:00 – Scripture & Opening
02:20 – Purpose of the Episode
04:40 – Who Obedience Training Is Really For
06:30 – Biblical Foundation for Obedience
09:50 – Authority Redefined
12:30 – Pagan Power vs Christian Authority
16:45 – Why Mothers Must Embrace Obedience Training
18:15 – Four Reasons Obedience Training Is Necessary
20:30 – Obedience and Safety
22:40 – Obedience and Education
25:00 – Moral Foundations
27:20 – The Standard of Obedience
29:20 – Biblical Proof for the Obedience Standard
32:30 – Why Grumbling Is Serious Sin
35:45 – Parenting Begins With Self-Discipline
37:45 – Principle One: Say What You Mean
40:15 – Why Bribery Corrupts Obedience
44:00 – Losing Your Cool Teaches Delayed Obedience
46:20 – The Hostage Negotiation Mistake
49:35 – Principle Two: You Are the Parent
51:40 – Stop Asking Permission to Give Commands
54:00 – Principle Three: Get the Child’s Attention
56:15 – Training Attention and Verbal Response
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